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Don’t let your failures define you: Shiwani Neupane


Cheers Talk with Shiwani Neupane

Kathmandu, December 17, 2016: Writer Shiwani Neupane has asked all the youths to not to let failures define them. Talking amidst a programme organized in the capital today by Cheers Nepal, a youth-led organization, she instead asked all to take failures as lessons to perform better in their life.

Neupane is the writer of two books, Monika: Pieces of Perfect(2012), and Crossing Shadows(2015). A graduate of Columbia Journalism School, many of her op-eds and articles have appeared in various national and international publications.

In the programme, she shared about the various failures she had to go through in her life, and how she coped with.


During her undergraduate years, a professor had asked her to drop her English Major, as he always used to see Neupane reading books on Political Science and International Relations. But, that advice infuriated her as she was sure that she was way ahead of her classmates. And, the professor’s statements angered her to an extent making her think, “How dare could someone to tell me that I am not capable enough to be a writer, as I was very much aspired on English literature and writing, apart from political science.” She was angered when the professor told her to leave the field she loved the most. And, with that anger, she pursued the syllabus with her full energy.

Soon after graduation, she was inducted into the International English Honors Society in her college. She still remembers that day. “That day was quite a contrast for me, from being told that I can’t study English Major, to being inducted into the society. I was very happy that day,” she shared.

“Had I accepted my professor’s advice and dropped my major, I wouldn’t have been able to make this far in literature,” she said, advising the youths present in the programme to not to take advices blindfolded, instead think on their own.

Sharing that she has failed for numerous times in her life, she said it’s not the failures that define us. “Instead, it’s how we take it as an opportunity, or get out of it.”

Giving examples of some of the superheroes, from Anuradha Koirala to Pushpa Basnet and others, she said that had they given up in their first failure, they wouldn’t have become what they are now.

She further said that how to handle a failure and move ahead is what is really important. “But, failure also does something well. It gives us an opportunity to find a solution, and makes us sturdy instead,” she added.

Sharing about writing of novels, she said that it’s countless hours of writing, editing, and more. “The journey is very long. And, there are also moments of doubt whether it really ends up being a readable book or not. But, you should continue if you are really passionate about it,” she advised.

She is of the opinion that one shouldn’t be too much focused on the goal, and future, and life-plan to an extent that one forgets to enjoy his/her present.

Responding to an audience question about writing her first Novel, Monica, she said that the book is the story of a billionaire’s daughter, and the idea of writing the book came when she was studying abroad and was imagining how the life of Monica would be like. “That time, 2010 World Cup was running. And my brother challenged me that I can’t do anything in my life. I got angry hearing that, and wrote the Novel out of that anger,” she shared.

Taking about writing, and sustaining one’s life through the profession, she shared that as the market for English books in Nepal is too small, we’re not there yet. “It’s more like impossible if we think of sustaining our life by writing English books here,” she said. “But, those writing in Nepali language have been making it. Added to this, if you are publishing from a foreign publishing house, then it’s also possible, as they pay handsomely,” she added.

Sharing some tips to be a good writer, she mentioned that one must be a good reader, and should find time to read books. “I read the news in the morning, and read books before I go to bed at night. Also, I do take a book along wherever I go so that I can read whenever I have free time,” Neupane shared her reading habits.