It’s a quote that I stumble upon some months ago, and I am not able to take my mind off since then. It goes like this “you make a lot of friends in two months by being genuinely interested in them, then you can make in two years by trying to get other interested in you”. When I read it for the first time, I didn’t pay much attention. But after flipping through some pages I returned to the same page and read it again.
Surprisingly, this sentence forced me to have a second thought. I realized just then that everyone wants to be the centre of attraction. Maybe, not everyone in the world but at least some people around them. Everyone wants to be noticed and given attention to. If someone fetches, you and asks questions about you, you feel special and ultimately both of you share a special bond of “Friendship”. Well, it’s not easy to show some unconditional interest in others, but what about you. How many people are interested in you? Not in, “outside you” but the “real you.” Believe me; it’s easy to show your interest in others, but to get other people interested in you is not so easy.
Your flawless act, and you’re pretending to be someone you are not, may catch much attention and you may circle yourself with a bunch of cool guys you tend “you”? I bet “you’re not.” Like I said before everyone wants to feel special, and everybody wants to be loved. I mean who the hell wants to be backed in the corner, remain unnoticed like the moss in your wall which grows after each rainfall “untouched and not cared.” But still, they tend to grow after, every rainfall.
The cool guys you bought your attention from are only interested in the “outside you” not the “real you”. So, in a way, you are betraying them, and you are faking yourself. To be noticed and to be loved, you don’t have to pretend to be someone else. Just stay real because precious friends all come in small packages. Don’t just live your life in few smiles; search the meaning of your life, i.e. in every drop of tear you cry.
No one is perfect, and you don’t have to be perfect. You are a just fine in your own way. What you have, is all that you need. You don’t need a bunch of flowers to make you feel special because you are special, and that is why you are here.
Just like, reading a beauty magazine makes you feel ugly. While you compare yourself with others, your perfectness fades away, and you feel weak inside. So, don’t judge yourself with others. Just judge yourself and let not others judge you because no one is able to judge you unless one is you.
I may not be the perfect friend. I may not be the perfect student in my class, and I may not be a perfect person. But I am who I am. And I am perfect in my own ways. Every day, I pray that all my dreams would come true, but it doesn’t really happen. This does break my heart, but it doesn’t really break me. This does break my heart but doesn’t stop me from dreaming.
Don’t be a fool chap who sees things and asks, “why?” Instead, love to dream things and ask, “why not?” So, all of your dream out there! Don’t waste your time to catch someone else’s attention and to impress others. If they are interested in you, let that “you” be the “real you”. Don’t always expect good things to happen. They happen rarely. Love yourself for who you are. Don’t change yourself for the people, you love. If they love you, they should love you for who you are. No matter how dull you are. You are, “‘you” and it’s the only thing you have. So be calm and proud of it! And remember you as “’You” the best way you can ever be.
- Swechha Poudel